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1 hour ago, Daniel Smith said:

That's a very naive statement. Things have worked for you and that's pleasing. For me no amount of medication or therapy is working. 

Had all sorts of counselling and every antidepressants going to no avail, been out of work for 2yrs now through this, all started from a bang to the head.

There is no 1 quick fix to everybody's evils, we're all different. 

Quite right Danny. it doesnt always work for a lot of people, but you will find some who will say, oh its worked for me to save face. As you and a lot on here know, ive just had a major brain tumour op in the last five months, im still recovering slowly. and its still very scary. I also suffer from Tinitus, im finding it hard to get it back down to the level it was before the op, hopefully it will but its not going to happen in 5 minutes.
Axniety comes in different forms,  mine stemmed from my panic attacks concurrant with this operation, id go to bed worrying if i was going to have one that night, they are not nice.
Depression lives here, this is very hard, although ive come out,  fairing better than a lot do  after this op, its still hard and worrying,  believe me, ive heard some stories from people who have had this op, ive been very,  very lucky and had a very, good surgeon. but you have to occupy  your mind to take it away, go for a walk in my case look at some racing form and breding  or go for a walk, go and look round the shops, put on a DVD you know, you will watch, do something to take your mind away from any negative thoughts, take on positive thoughts. Not easy but it can be done. Willpower.
Sometimes its good to talk to somebody who doesnt know you, but it would be far better to talk to somebody who does, providing they are re-assuring have patience and helpful.
We all know what a problem it is getting an appointment with YOUR GP, but if you have questions you must ask, and your Dr will listen.  make an appointment to see him/her as many times as you like, dont feel guilty,  but you have to ask, it wont get offered., the same as if you speak to a specialist. Its also good to speak to somebody that has been through the same thing that gives you an insight, to hopefully, deal with it better. fight or flight, it works, but you have to make it happen. I am now in a position to talk to anybody who's had this op, i can give them an insight as to what to expect.. re-assurance these panic attacks do subside, the titainium  pins will not move, dont do to much,  you do get fatigued its normal. try not to get stressed , very hard nowadays, enlist as much help as you can from reliatives and friends/neighbours. but  in my case you have to do it all, by the book, you dont bugger about with the Brain.
Everybody has a different reason for there Aniety and depression, you have to find a way of dealing with it. In the meantime, my ears are singing like bloody canaries, and the head fluid is driving me round the bend, 1 2 3 and four...

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Good for you Starman being so open about what you've been through and how you are trying to deal with it. I think that is the best approach. You are acknowledging your fears and concerns but also explaining how you are finding ways to help your recovery. Putting it down in writing may be helpful not just for you but to anyone else unfortunate enough to find themselves in a similar position.

I hope your recovery continues and that you are soon back to good health.

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41 minutes ago, Aces51 said:

Good for you Starman being so open about what you've been through and how you are trying to deal with it. I think that is the best approach. You are acknowledging your fears and concerns but also explaining how you are finding ways to help your recovery. Putting it down in writing may be helpful not just for you but to anyone else unfortunate enough to find themselves in a similar position.

I hope your recovery continues and that you are soon back to good health.

Thank you Aces 51. still a long way to go though.

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3 hours ago, Starman2006 said:

Quite right Danny. it doesnt always work for a lot of people, but you will find some who will say, oh its worked for me to save face. As you and a lot on here know, ive just had a major brain tumour op in the last five months, im still recovering slowly. and its still very scary. I also suffer from Tinitus, im finding it hard to get it back down to the level it was before the op, hopefully it will but its not going to happen in 5 minutes.
Axniety comes in different forms,  mine stemmed from my panic attacks concurrant with this operation, id go to bed worrying if i was going to have one that night, they are not nice.
Depression lives here, this is very hard, although ive come out,  fairing better than a lot do  after this op, its still hard and worrying,  believe me, ive heard some stories from people who have had this op, ive been very,  very lucky and had a very, good surgeon. but you have to occupy  your mind to take it away, go for a walk in my case look at some racing form and breding  or go for a walk, go and look round the shops, put on a DVD you know, you will watch, do something to take your mind away from any negative thoughts, take on positive thoughts. Not easy but it can be done. Willpower.
Sometimes its good to talk to somebody who doesnt know you, but it would be far better to talk to somebody who does, providing they are re-assuring have patience and helpful.
We all know what a problem it is getting an appointment with YOUR GP, but if you have questions you must ask, and your Dr will listen.  make an appointment to see him/her as many times as you like, dont feel guilty,  but you have to ask, it wont get offered., the same as if you speak to a specialist. Its also good to speak to somebody that has been through the same thing that gives you an insight, to hopefully, deal with it better. fight or flight, it works, but you have to make it happen. I am now in a position to talk to anybody who's had this op, i can give them an insight as to what to expect.. re-assurance these panic attacks do subside, the titainium  pins will not move, dont do to much,  you do get fatigued its normal. try not to get stressed , very hard nowadays, enlist as much help as you can from reliatives and friends/neighbours. but  in my case you have to do it all, by the book, you dont bugger about with the Brain.
Everybody has a different reason for there Aniety and depression, you have to find a way of dealing with it. In the meantime, my ears are singing like bloody canaries, and the head fluid is driving me round the bend, 1 2 3 and four...

I take my hat  off  to you    you have showed terrific character and you obviously are mentally strong and i wish you well in your recovery.Looking in from the outside are you in front of schedule of getting back to nearly full health?  for me for you to get to see the Pirates as soon as you have is a miracle.Again good luck for the future and it has certainly made me think again when moaning at home about trivial things that in reality are not important.

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On 9 May 2018 at 8:35 AM, Midland Red said:

What did Cockle say?

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10 hours ago, waytogo28 said:

Anxiety at whatever level is relatively easily managed ( I know from years of experience ) with a combination of medication and therapy, I am not sure which medication is compatible with professional motorsport but I am sure that CC must be aware of this. It cannot be used as an excuse for poor performance ( if that happens ) IF the correct steps of medication ( where permitted ) and talking therapy are taken. Lets hope that CC is being professional about managing his condition as well as his performances on track. I am a big fan of what he is capable of on track and want to see him conquer his condition at the times when it is most intrusive.

Absolute boloxio!!! Years of experience yet you post with such ignorance. I’m alright Jack, pull up the ladder! You could not be more wrong. Pleased you found an ‘easy’ remedy, many others don’t. 

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5 hours ago, Sidney the robin said:

I take my hat  off  to you    you have showed terrific character and you obviously are mentally strong and i wish you well in your recovery.Looking in from the outside are you in front of schedule of getting back to nearly full health?  for me for you to get to see the Pirates as soon as you have is a miracle.Again good luck for the future and it has certainly made me think again when moaning at home about trivial things that in reality are not important.

Amen, very much so sid thank you. I met a girl at the brain injury group last  friday who had the same op as me. She spent 11 days on ITU, then when she came out of hospital didnt leave the house for 5 mths. she had all the same  post op  symptoms concurrant with this op ie the panic attacks the extreme tiredness fatigue. She has half an eye on her right side . She could not believe i was sitting there like i am.  I have so many people , poole fans coming up to me, shaking my hand and asking as to my welbeing, fans say they pray for me its humbling mate. I have OT's drs consultants my surgeon who is always, happy to talk if he's not in theatre. my GP who i have known sinse he was a medical student.
As i have said before, the tumour was 2 inchs in diameter totally benign, it was a very deliacate operation. Some patients come out of this and not able to eat whole food, it has to be liquidised, i went straight on to solids without giving it a second thought. the following day i was up out of bed talking to the other patients  My surgeon says it is highly, unlikely it will come back, they got it all out what they could see with the naked eyes, ie microscoped glasses, and the CT scan the following day backed that up. I have all my faculties  i walk a lot, but have done no proper exercises for 5 mths, i have a physio coming to my house in 2 weeks time to work with me to  sort out what i can do all arranged by the brain injury OT team. atm my nose is bunged up and my ears are going mad, the fluid sits then runs like a waterfall, you think its running down your face, but its not. Nothing is set in stone mate, so i want to do what i can, bucket list while i can, we are only here a short time in reality, so you have to do that, this has changed my life outlook big time, i will have MRI scans for the next 4 years, they will be a worry, everytime.
But, i say to all those suffering from depression and axniety, ask yourself the question, why ?  write it down if nessercary ask questions, believe me, ive been through hell and back but, there are a lot worse than me, and those that sadly dont make it. You are alive, you can go out you can do what you want to do. Theres a 43 yr old lad who comes to the headway group who is confined to a motorised wheelchair, his car was  hit by a lorry 20 years ago whist the prat in the lorry was on his mobile, imagine what he went through, i wouldnt like to guess. There are many selfish people in this world, take a walk round the cancer wards or the Neuro surgical wards, they might just think differently.
I owe my life to my surgeon, and a very dear friend of mine jayne, who i have known for 37 years who was before she retired senior Nursing coo- ordinator of poole maternity unit i went to see her before christmas she took me to cas, had she not been there, because she worked odd days gawd knows what might have happened to me.
Whilst in poole general, i had a massive panic attack where my blood went wrong that was very scary,  i lost hair in the op i have a numb righthandside of my head, but,  im here im living walking talking seeing hearing and am very very greatful for that. It could have been oh so much worse.  and i will always, remember that.

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5 hours ago, Midland Red said:

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I saw something on the National League Facebook site which showed comments by Cockle which included Foul and abusive language , he used the F word a few times and called someone a C. No stars or asteriks used the full words. Not something that should be written on a family FB site like that. It was on there about a week ago before getting removed by the administrator after complaints about it. Most of it was aimed at a Speedway Promoters partner. I can only guess that the ban was for that.

 

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21 hours ago, iand said:

I saw something on the National League Facebook site which showed comments by Cockle which included Foul and abusive language , he used the F word a few times and called someone a C. No stars or asteriks used the full words. Not something that should be written on a family FB site like that. It was on there about a week ago before getting removed by the administrator after complaints about it. Most of it was aimed at a Speedway Promoters partner. I can only guess that the ban was for that.

 

Oh dear!

 

Thank you

 

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Judging on Cook's performance in the Warsaw GP, I assume that he didn't make the practice after all ? :D

 

BSPA are a bunch of  TOP HATS!

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He was at practice.

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